All is Calm: Improve Your Sleep
CategoriesHealth / Hypnosis / Self-Improvement / Sleep
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I used to be super impatient until I made up my mind one day, this was no way to live!
I realized that I was particularly impatient about things that I didn’t want to be doing or just wanted to get it over with. And if I was mostly impatient, most of the time, that meant I was doing too much of what I didn’t want to be doing.
I was doing favors for people who took advantage of me. I had a lack of boundaries when it came to my time and efforts. I had become a doing-machine with little time for being, let alone being me….
I had to keep up with a never-ending to-do list, because I secretly hoped that when I was finished, I could finally do what I wanted. But the tasks never ceased, and my frustration turned into a pervasive impatience.
It wasn’t just others using my time, it was me who created unnecessary tasks that were somehow made important in my mind, like my default mode had become impatient and hurried so I was making up tasks to stay in that mode, because it’s what I was used to.
One of the signs I’m not enjoying life is impatience.
This may not be the case for you, but we all have these signs and signals that we’re not aligned with ourselves or our life. Impatience is that warning sign for me.
Becoming more patient has really helped me be a better parent and a calmer person. It’s amazing when we change one aspect of our life, it begins to have a ripple effect in other areas.
When I find that impatience is creeping up again, I ask myself if I’m doing too much for others or not doing enough of what I enjoy. Am I giving away or squandering my time? Will I be resentful or regretful later if I keep doing this?
Just like impatience is a warning sign for me, sleep issues are a warning sign for many people.
If you have sleep issues, something in your life isn’t working for you.
So many people are not living according to what’s best for them and their nature and this shows up as lack of sleep and eventually illness.
This reminds me of the best career advice I ever received: Create a job around your life. Don’t create your life around a job. More than 50% of professionals say they lose sleep thinking about work.
For most people, a lack of sleep is a lack of processing their day.
The first time, and sometimes the only time, people get to reflect and process their day is when they lay down to sleep. Most people don’t build in rest or relaxation periods into their day. Distractions, like TV and scrolling, don’t count.
This is also why people enjoy coffee. For some, it’s their only moment of peace during the day. For others, who take their coffee to go, it’s like a mini mindfulness break. Each time they take a sip, they’re transported to the present moment. People just need more of this throughout their day!
I remember a client I hypnotized for better sleep. I also look for patterns in someone’s life that contribute to their problem.
I finally caught on that when he did get good sleep, it was when he was watching his wife do her nightly routine. She’d methodically remove her makeup and wash her face. She had this elaborate skincare routine too. He found this soothing and mesmerizing. During this time, he would process and reflect, which we need those times in our day! If he was watching tv while she was getting ready for bed, it was more difficult to get to sleep.
This, of all things, was a key to good sleep for him and we created his own mentally soothing and mesmerizing routine with self-hypnosis!
In addition, he used to be able to take power naps and he expressed that he’d like to do that again.
I asked him about when he used to have that ability to take random naps and he said it was when he would be waiting for his wife in the car while she was shopping. But that unwinding time was replaced by his smart phone. So, you see, there are plenty of times you can insert these natural breaks for processing all the input from your day and it benefits your sleep!
How exactly do you process your day?
- Have transition periods. When transitioning from work to home, or one big task or event to another big task or event, create time for transition in between.
- Know when you’re going to get a break. I used to power through tasks especially for work. I’d feel agitated and stressed while doing it. Then I learned that if I paused for a moment and talked myself through it gently, I felt better. I’d also reassure myself by letting myself know that after that task, I’d carve out relaxation time. Knowing I had that time coming, made me relax into the task I was completing.
- Patience. As I mentioned above, being more patient helped me in many ways, but also standing in line became just standing in line- a time to process and be mindful throughout my day. Being patient gave me natural breaks when I had to wait.
- Iced tea on the front porch. Just kidding… sort of. Leisure time like sipping iced tea on the front porch, used to be a natural way to process our day. It was a luxury the common man could afford and an excellent way to process things. I take an afternoon tea break because it sounds royal 🙂 and helps me relax.
- Watch life, not tv! Believe it or not, most of what I learned about people is from people-watching. Sitting back at a coffee shop or tourist destination, just watching people, is great for reflection and relaxation. In mindfulness, they call this practice window-gazing. Taking some time to just look out of the window at the world around you.
People who struggle with meditation are not accustomed to breaks. Meditation becomes the only time they can process stuff, which isn’t exactly how they envisioned meditation.
Everything from their day starts bubbling up into both their meditation and their sleep and it’s hardly relaxing. They end up feeling frustrated with their meditation practice, just like their sleep.
If you’re drowning in tasks and spend any potential reflection or zoning out time scrolling your social media or checking your emails, then your sleep will suffer. You’re basically cutting into your sleep time to process your day.
Another tip for better sleep is to choose the same 4 things to do before you go to bed each night. These should be simple tasks that signal to your brain, it’s time for sleep. This is the law of association. Do these tasks slowly and mindfully.
If you need additional assistance with any sleep issues you may be experiencing, please reach out to me for a consult. Hypnosis is a natural sleep solution. It has been extensively studied to improve sleep quality and increase deep sleep by as much as 80%, and
NEW YEAR NEWS!
- Two new programs! One of the reasons I became a Hypnotherapist was because my life (and health) took a turn for the worse when I had severe sleep issues. I never recovered the sleep I needed or a healthy sleep schedule after I had a baby and it had dire consequences. I worked with my integrative doctor who hypnotized me for good sleep! For this reason, I’m offering two specialty programs that focus on getting great sleep and implementing healthy lifestyle habits. Learn more: Healthy Weight Loss (6 Sessions) and Sleep Well Hypnosis (3 Sessions).
- New Free Guided Meditations: Some new meditations on my YouTube channel in 2023 will be Self Love, Stop Worrying, Healthy Body, and Joyful Living. If any of these (and more) interest you, be sure to subscribe to my channel. 2022’s most popular meditation was Stop People Pleasing,
- New Journal! I was going to release my latest FREE journal in October but decided to wait until the new year. The new journal is an Inner Child journal that will help you connect with the part of you that would benefit most from your attention. Inner child work can relieve triggers, release traumas, improve your relationships, and help you have more self-compassion for any shame, guilt, grief, or abandonment you may experience. If you haven’t already downloaded my other Journal for Self-Awareness, do that here.
- New Year Affirmations. Last year I updated my expansive list of positive affirmations (The BIG List of Affirmations) to use as you wish. You’ll find them very motivational for all your needs from health to career and spiritual development.
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Peace and Be Well!